has nothing to do with the sex...
okay well maybe not...
nothing....
But it goes so far beyond the sex.
For me, i need to look deep inside him,
to know him, really know him....
how his mind works, what is in his heart...
what he deems as important in his life...
the good and the not so good...
before i can determine his ability to handle the "power" of us.
Those things in his mind, his heart
need to be in tune....
with what is in my mind and in my heart.
Therein lies the element of trust.
When you trust that he wants what you want
that he needs what you need,
and not simply in regard to sex,
but rather in life as a whole...
That is the point when the light turns on
that you know,
yes he is capable,
yes he is worthy.
The need to let go
of all that you hold close
suddenly without force,
is "naturally" his...
as smoothly as that.
Its not really a decision
it just simply... is!
To get to that point takes time...
it takes deep explorations of thoughts,
of feelings...
It takes communication in the rawest form.
i need for him to open up,
to show me those thoughts, those feelings...
Show me who he is...
i need to feel safe
to let go of the doubts, the questions....
to feel the flow is as smooth and "natural"
as it was meant to be...
Did you write this for me?
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LOL - great post!!
This is right on the money! BULLSEYE! Sex and the physical aspects of this are a big part of it, but tall the other areas are so much deeper and more important. Without them, the sex is...well, just sex. With them, it is more of a spiritual experience together. I think you got in my head, found this, and wrote it in your blog. :)
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Inside your minds...Now those would be some fun places to be...lol
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