This lifestyle is so diverse, there are so many different segments, and so many different levels within each segment. One should never find this lifestyle boring!
If it becomes mundane, there are issues somewhere within the segments.
Acting up or becoming "slack" is a sign that something has gone awry some where.
In my previous relationship, when things became stagnate, i would slack, fully expecting him to bring things back to where they should be. But when that didn't happened it was perceived as one of two things.
First was the guilt, he is unhappy and i have failed!
And second was the blame, he is just not strong enough to take control.
The truth be known, it was really neither scenario.
It just wasn't "right". It didn't fit.
I was trying to put a square peg into a round hole.
We both wanted it to work so badly, that we didn't see the "misfit" at the time.
My commitment in my search, is for it to "fit". To recognize the square peg.
Ha ha, it sounds so easy!
It really takes patience, and a strong willingness to look beyond whats in front of me.
Being selective, not compromising are not "faults" but rather confidence and dedication.
It is believing that it will fit.
Believing that it will feel right.
Not just "some of the time", and maybe not "all of the time", but finding that fine line.
Finding the balance.